女朋友糾纏在一段感情已有多年,眼看年紀漸長,可是那個人依然沒有所動,就連關係都沒有弄清楚。家裡的事、感情的事,一切一切把她推進一個角落,不知道該怎樣才好。和她聊天的時候有好幾次,我真的想跑到那個男人的面前,質問他:到底你要怎樣?不要再浪費她的時間了,要是愛她的話,就告訴她,不要在這樣對她了!
可是當然我不能這樣做,我是誰?我沒有資格插手,搞不好的話,可能會被怨一輩子。也可能是時間還沒到呢?有一天,她會頓悟,知道自己要的是什麽,需要做什麽。有一天,可能那個男的也會頓悟。
可是這頓悟什麽時候才來?沒有人知道,可能要好幾年,也有可能是明天。解鈴還須系鈴人,話很老套但卻很有道理。換過來如果我是在她的位置上,可能我不會這樣做,但每個人有每個人的問題。很多時候,知道不對的事,就要狠下心腸,一刀兩斷,就算有多麼的不捨、多麼的難過、多麼的不情願,就是不能回頭。有些人曾經對我說,如果是腦子和心裏的鬥爭,到最後一定會是心勝出的,所以如果想做什麽就去做。這是對的嗎?沒有經過的大腦,只憑直覺,隨之而來的會是災難。但是,說的容易、做的難,我們還是凡人。
I guess…we need to pray then…like it or not because afterall, we are just human…so little!
this is the last thing I would do….it’ll make you feel better but won’t get you anywhere. Be proactive coz’ life doesn’t take two.
It amazes me how it dragged on for so long too. I think the core of any relationship is communication. If there’s no communication to be had, then a relationship is nothing more than lust. If couples can only open up and express their true feelings and throughts to one another, then there will be much less speculations and uneasiness. Of course, for a lot of the relationships out there, if the truth is told, then the relationship may terminate. But then again, if a relationship is based upon pure speculation, is it something that’s worth cherishing? Unless of course, one is in it for lust, and not love.